Weddings at St. James

Wedding Customary
St. James’ Church, Texarkana

1) St. James’ Church adheres to the Theology and Form of Christian Marriage in the Book of Common Prayer (1979).

2) Anyone who desires to have their matrimony celebrated at St. James’ Church should first call on the Rector before any plans are made. In general, only those who are active baptized members of St. James, their dependents/children, or have been regularly attending St. James for at least six months, may have their marriages solemnized at St. James.

3) All marriages must meet the canonical requirements of The Episcopal Church: couples must notify the Rector within 30 days prior to the solemnization, have the right to marry according to State law, do so willingly and without fraud, provide proof that at least one individual is baptized, complete the requisite pre-marital counseling and sign the following declaration of intent. (I.18.1-4).

4) Declaration of Intention:

We understand the teaching of the church that God's purpose for our marriage is for our mutual joy, for the help and comfort we will give to each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God's will, for the gift and heritage of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of God. We also understand that our marriage is to be unconditional, mutual, exclusive, faithful, and lifelong; and we engage to make the utmost effort to accept these gifts and fulfill these duties, with the help of God and the support of our community.

5) In the case of a remarriage after divorce, for either member of the couple, a judgment and permission must be obtained from the Bishop of the Diocese of Dallas. This is a more time-consuming process that the Rector will explain.

6) The Rector has full discretion to decline to solemnize or bless any marriage (I.18.7). That decision will also be binding on any cleric assigned to this parish, residing within the bounds of the parish, or invited to participate. This decision will also preclude the use of any parish property for such services. It is the prerogative of the Rector to solemnize marriages, and any request for additional/other clergy to participate must be approved.

7) All planning for the wedding ceremony is done in conjunction with the Rector or his designee. Wedding coordinators/consultants are not a part of this process, nor will they be allowed to participate in any rehearsal.

8) Flowers are the responsibility of the couple, but the Altar Guild is available for consultation.

9) Music is arranged in consultation with the Organist/Choirmaster. The Hymnal 1982 is the standard hymnal at St. James. We do not use recorded music. Any soloists must be approved by the Organist/Choirmaster. Fee schedule is below.

10) If the parish is to provide programs all names must be to the office three weeks prior to the event. If programs are published externally, Rector will review for accuracy four weeks before the event.

11) While there is no fee for the wedding service, a contribution to the Church is expected. A suggested guideline is a tithe (10%) of the wedding expenses. It is also appropriate to give an honorarium to the priest performing the wedding. It is the Rector’s policy to use honorariums to support the Discretionary Fund, and to share the honorarium with assisting clergy.

12) No flash photography is permitted during the service. Video cameras may be used after consultation with the Rector. Photographs may also be done after the service, and may be staged if needed.

13) The Great Hall may be reserved for receptions. All food and beverage must be catered. If alcohol is to be served, proof of liability insurance must be provided. Wedding Party will be responsible for any damages to building or furnishings.

14) Fees (except for organist, acolytes, and livestreaming) are waived for contributing members/dependents

a) Organist—Marriage Office
b) Organist—Nuptial Mass
c) Organist—above with Soloist/Chamber Group
d) Organist—each additional Soloist
e) Great Hall Reception--$1500
f) Use of dressing rooms, per room--$100
g) Wedding Hostess--$150
h) Acolyte, per--$50
i) Livestreaming staff--$150
j) Cleaning Fee, basic (2hrs)--$150
k) Cleaning Fee, each additional hour--$50
l) Premarital Counseling Assessment--$35

 Wedding Readings

Old Testament
Genesis 1:26-28 (Male and female he created them)
Genesis 2:4-9, 15-24 (A man cleaves to his wife and they become one flesh)
Song of Solomon 2:10-13; 8:6-7 (Many waters cannot quench love)
Tobit 8:5b-8 (That she and I may grow old together)

Psalms
67, 127, 128

New Testament
1 Corinthians 13:1-13 (Love is patient and kind)
Ephesians 3:14-19 (The Father from whom every family is named)
Ephesians 5:1-2, 21-33 (Walk in love, as Christ loved us)
Colossians 3:12-17 (Love which binds everything together in harmony)
1 John 4:7-16 (Let us love one another for love is of God)

Gospel
Matthew 5:1-10 (The Beatitudes)
Matthew 5:13-16 (You are the light...Let your light so shine)
Matthew 7:21,24-29 (Like a wise man who built his house upon the rock)
Mark 10:6-9,13-16 (They are no longer two but one)
John 15:9-12 (Love one another as I have loved you)

Suggested Hymns/Music:
Entrance
364 O God, we praise thee, and confess
366 Holy God, we praise thy Name
373 Praise the Lord! Ye heaves adore him
375 Give praise and glory unto God
376 Joyful, joyful, we adore thee
377, 378 All people that on earth do dwell
390 Praise to the Lord, the Almighty
396, 397 Now thank we all our God
398 I sing the almighty power of God
399 To God with gladness sing
400 All creatures of our God and King
401 The God of Abraham praise
408 Sing praise to God who reigns above
409 The spacious firmament on high
410 Praise, my soul, the King of heaven
413 New songs of celebration render
414 God, my King, thy might confessing
416 For the beauty of the earth
421 All glory be to God on high
423 Immortal, invisible, God only wise
428 O all ye works of God, now come
430 Come, O come, our voices raise
431 The stars declare his glory
432 O praise ye the Lord! Praise him in the height
492 Sing, ye faithful, sing with gladness
518 Christ is made the sure foundation

After the Declaration of Intent or Sequence
138 All praise to you, O Lord
350 O God of love, to thee we bow
351 May the grace of Christ our Savior
352 O God, to those who here profess
353 Your love, O God, has called us here
612 Gracious Spirit, Holy ghost
709 O God of Bethel, by whose hand

Offertory
138 All praise to you, O Lord
351 May the grace of Christ our Savior
581 Where charity and love prevail
593 Lord, make us servants of your peace
612 Gracious Spirit, Holy ghost
709 O God of Bethel, by whose hand

Communion
312 Strengthen for service, Lord
351 May the grace of Christ our Savior
635 If thou but trust in God to guide thee
645, 646 The King of love my shepherd is
663 The Lord my God my shepherd is
664 My Shepherd will supply my need

Exit
373 Praise the Lord! Ye heaves adore him
375 Give praise and glory unto God
376 Joyful, joyful, we adore thee
390 Praise to the Lord, the Almighty
396, 397 Now thank we all our God
408 Sing praise to God who reigns above
410 Praise, my soul, the King of heaven
414 God, my King, thy might confessing
416 For the beauty of the earth
421 All glory be to God on high
432 O praise ye the Lord! Praise him in the height
635 If thou but trust in God to guide thee

Other Musical Suggestions
Entrance
Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring, Johann Sebastian Bach
Canon in D, Johann Pachelbel
The Prince of Denmark’s March, Jeremiah Clarke
Trumpet Voluntary, Henry Purcell
Prelude to the “Te Deum,” Marc-Antoine Charpentier
Rondeau, Jean-Joseph Mouret
Overture to the Music for the Royal Fireworks, George Frideric Handel

Exit
Trumpet Voluntary, John Stanley
Allegro maestoso from the Water Music Suite, Handel
Rigaudon, André Campra
Wedding March, Felix Mendelssohn
Hymn to Joy (from Symphony 9), Ludwig van Beethoven